Happy Valentine’s Day! Or as a friend recently referred to it, Happy Single Awareness Day.
As the saying goes, love is in the air. But the problem is that we have no idea what love really is and that’s keeping us from really experiencing it. It’s also stressing us out.
Let’s clear up 5 of the myths about love that are keeping you stuck in less-than-love and stress.
Myth #1: Love feels good.
Just because it feels good, doesn’t mean it’s love. Love isn’t about “feeling good” or pleasure. Love is about striving for the highest good. Sometimes that feels good. Sometimes it doesn’t. This kind of love isn’t about instant gratification, but long-term rewards.
Myth #2: Love is for one special someone.
Love is meant to be shared. Remember love is about striving for the highest good. Everyone and everything’s highest good. Your highest good. Your loved one’s highest good. Your life’s highest good. Your mailman’s highest good. Your career’s highest good. Your enemy’s highest good.
Myth #3: Love is simple.
Love has many flavours. Love and seeking highest good includes care, compassion, appreciation, forgiveness, anticipation, excitement, passion, contentment, peace, faith, and trust. If you are feeling care, that’s love. If you are feeling forgiveness, that’s love. That also means that when you are unwilling to forgive, you are denying love, denying highest good.
Myth #4: Love is a feeling.
Sure, you might feel love or it’s flavours. But love is primarily a choice, you don’t wait for it to happen; you make it happen. As we mentioned already, love isn’t about feeling good, it’s about choosing the highest good in that moment. Love is choosing to appreciate. Choosing to care. Choosing to have faith. Choosing to forgive. Even when it’s difficult. That’s choosing love.
Myth #5: Love is a gift given.
Love isn’t like a wrapped box you hand someone, once and done. It’s not a noun, a thing you give. It’s a verb, a choice you make. Perpetually. Love is constantly demanded of you every moment of everyday. Doesn’t matter it it’s your spouse, boss, kids, neighbour, friend, enemy, yourself, your life, love is a constant choosing.
Bonus Myth #6: Love is easy.
Sorry to break it to you, but if you’ve read the other 5 myths, this shouldn’t come as a surprise. Love isn’t easy. But the joy is in the struggle. Learn to fall in love with love.
Re-read these 6 points, considering your life and different aspects of it. Based on your new understanding of love, do you love your life, your loved ones, your career, your friends? Do the people and things around you love you?
Love, the right kind of love, is the secret weapon against stress. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a bit more of this kind of love in the air?
Here’s to Conquering Stress,
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